If you’ve ever been around someone who’s unmotivated, you’ll know that one issue is lack of energy. Unmotivated people just can’t do things that might seem very simple or easy to the rest of us – even small chores can be overwhelming for them.
If you’ve been around someone who’s always busy, you’ll know that one issue is their inability to truly stop. These people tend to walk fast, they talk fast, they eat fast – and for others just being in their presence can be overwhelming.
Neither of these extremes is a healthy place to be: each can be both a sign of stress and a cause of stress. And we all know, while some stress is inevitable, stimulating and motivating, excessive or constant stress isn’t any good for us.
When we came to the Steiner (Waldorf) community, I was introduced to a recipe for living well, which I love – the concept of breathing-in, and breathing-out. We need busy times: breathing-in. We need quiet, restful times: breathing-out. Steiner was very big on having a rhythm of both for a healthy life: daily, weekly, in keeping with the seasons and annually.
As someone who tends to swing dramatically between the two extremes (I suffer from Seasonally Affected Depression and have two very different levels of energy depending on the amount of sunlight around) I’ve been working on some ways to find balance. At the moment my daily breathing out times are: five to 10 minutes outside first thing in the morning – my blogging buddy @ Yours Ambiguously, E.E. Talisman tells me mornings are a good time to pray, so I spend the time in silence giving thanks (besides being outside first thing helps my brain use natural light to turn off the sleep chemical melatonin and turn on the happy chemical serotonin – they work like a see-saw); story time with the Owl after lunch; and story time and snuggles in bed with all the boys until they’re asleep. I just tried including a small break this morning while the Butterfly was asleep. Compulsory sit and do nothing at all time: today 3 minutes – which is surprisingly difficult to do – with the intention of building this up slowly to around 10 minutes. Overall, I’m happy with this as a template for daily breathing-out.
We’re not as busy as many other people during the week, but I’m still struggling to get good weekly breathing-out times. We have ‘Fend for yourself Friday’ and everyone has to get their own evening meal…OK, not the Butterfly, but everyone else. I am also meant to have one morning a weekend to sleep-in or just stay in bed, but our kids are the kind who show their sense of detachment from me and struggle to leave me alone – and *I’m* hardly likely to resort to cartoons (LOL). After the Easter holidays the Butterfly is going to start having regular mornings with each of his grandmothers (love grandmothers) and I’ll go swimming – which isn’t proper breathing-out time, except my brain will be free. And then I draw a blank.
So, any suggestions? How do you breath-out during the week?
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