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About Karyn @ kloppenmum

kloppenmum is me, Karyn Van Der Zwet, mother of three and ex-teacher. I'm part of a revolution in parenting, with the aim to raise mature (not sophisticated) and self-assured children. I also know some stuff about adults. I have also had articles printed in The Journal for The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (Children and Young People) and the US parenting magazine, Pathways to Family Wellness, as well I regularly write for World Moms Blog (named as one of the Forbes 100 most useful blogs for women 2012 &2013). You can follow me on facebook (kloppenmum) pinterest (Karyn at Kloppenmum) and twitter (@kloppenmum). I'm also vaguely on LinkedIn (Karyn Van Der Zwet). Thanks to Joe (Mr Hare) for taking the photo. Cheers, son: xxxx.

New Blog

Have now expanded into adult stuff.. you can follow me here: http://livingwithoutdrama.wordpress.com/

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Boys Nurture Too: My Latest on World Moms Blog

Click here: http://www.worldmomsblog.com/2014/04/14/new-zealand-boys-nurture/

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Dealing with Bitchiness and Nasty Sarcasm

Bitchiness and Nasty Sarcasm, like any lashing out or meanness, are signs of sorrow and pain, or frustration, or not wanting to face a reality that doesn’t fit with current personal paradigms. The first key, for the person on the … Continue reading

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Bitchiness and Nasty Sarcasm – Bullying TANTRUMS of Sad People

I’ve talked a lot about Karpman’s  Drama Triangle and how those nonconscious (learned but automated) and embedded patterns (they are in place by the age of four or five) can muck up our parenting, without us even realising it. This … Continue reading

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Food Harvesting with my Boys – My Latest at World Moms Blog

Here’s the link: http://www.worldmomsblog.com/2014/02/10/new-zealand-good-old-days/ I always love to hear from you…here or there.

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TANTRUMS: Helping Kids When They Dig Themselves Into A Hole

All relationships go through times of emotional disconnection. This is natural and normal and part of being one human living with other humans. When our children tantrum, whatever the reason, these are times when they feel disconnected from us. Sometimes … Continue reading

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World Moms Post Last Week

http://www.worldmomsblog.com/2013/11/04/new-zealand-praise-cousins/

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