Category Archives: Boundary Setting

Tantrum Recovery Time.

Ever noticed how the children, who have both emotional support and firm and reasonable boundaries, recover so much more quickly from their Processing Tantrums than those who don’t have these? Or, if they do have a major meltdown and the … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: I HATE YOU!!

So Kloppenmum-ers, where do you fit on the scale of 1 to 10 (1 being least upset, 10 being most) when your children tell you that they hate you? When someone tells us they hate us they are telling us … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS and the Stubborn Child

So, Kloppenmum-ers I had the privilege of two children melting down this week – oh the joys! The first was our eight year-old, our usually lovely boy with an Owl temperament. It started as a simple Possession Tantrum over a … Continue reading

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Parenting Styles and Unexpected Outcomes

I think it was NZ parenting guru Ian Grant who invented the parenting labels: brick wall, jellyfish and backbone. Today I am going to add in an exoskeleton parenting style. Although there are about as many different ways to parent … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: The Serenity Triangle

In the past I felt annoyed by the whole – “Don’t Do, Just Be” brigade. I could never understand what was wrong with doing. If I didn’t have ambitions and plans, and work each day towards those goals – how … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: Yeah, Not Breaking That Bad Habit Is One.

Tantrums involve feeling unsafe and uncomfortable inside our bodies. Reaction Tantrums happen when something is out of whack with our homeostasis. If we are, at least somewhat, self-aware adults we can consciously hold the goal – say something like sleep … Continue reading

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PUNISHMENT: What it IS, What it ISN’T and Why Some of Us Might Need to Get Over Ourselves

We are built with some innate drives and beliefs: food is good and we need to eat it, is a common one. But most of our brain systems are not developed at birth – the way they form depends on … Continue reading

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