Category Archives: For Adults

Dealing with Bitchiness and Nasty Sarcasm

Bitchiness and Nasty Sarcasm, like any lashing out or meanness, are signs of sorrow and pain, or frustration, or not wanting to face a reality that doesn’t fit with current personal paradigms. The first key, for the person on the … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: Grace and Validation for Parents

Today I want to consider our own tantrums, as parents. Those we have with our kids sometimes and then regret. And I want to give us a chance to offer ourselves some grace and forgiveness, and I want to present what … Continue reading

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Primal Need Five: Love WITH Sexuality

The final primal need is that of Love and Sexuality or, to be more precise, Love with Sexuality. (The first part of this series is here: Preventing Our Children From Developing Demons (And Healing Our Own).)   Those people who … Continue reading

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Enmeshed is NOT Attuned and Enmeshed is NOT Healthy

People with the aspects of the Autonomy Survival Style do not trust themselves. They struggle to set internal boundaries and they struggle to understand how they can be loved if they make room for their own needs. They over-function in … Continue reading

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Primal Need Four: Autonomy

This is another post in the series that has been really hard for me to write. It addresses one of my core survival styles, one I am proud to say I am pretty sure I haven’t passed on to my younger boys, … Continue reading

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The Reality of The Trust Survival Style

We’ve all been deluded at some stage, whether it be by a friend or a lover, a family member or an acquaintance. Some people just seem to magically draw us in and we imagine they are something they are not. … Continue reading

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Primal Need Three: Trust

This is the next part in a series, which began here:  Preventing Our Children From Developing Demons (And Healing Our Own). The need to trust can be abused by parents with their own agendas. The resultant children have personalities that … Continue reading

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