Category Archives: Home Environment

Maturity is a Product of Experience, the Real Kind not Manufactured Bullshit

I have just been sitting on a grassy hill, under pine trees and in dappled sunlight, watching my four year-old play in a dam of icy water. (Yes, this is an old picture.) From time to time, as he walked … Continue reading

Posted in All About Tantrums, Home Environment, Parenting Styles | Tagged , , | 4 Comments

TANTRUMS: Grace and Validation for Parents

Today I want to consider our own tantrums, as parents. Those we have with our kids sometimes and then regret. And I want to give us a chance to offer ourselves some grace and forgiveness, and I want to present what … Continue reading

Posted in All About Tantrums, For Adults, Home Environment | Tagged , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Parenting Styles and Unexpected Outcomes

I think it was NZ parenting guru Ian Grant who invented the parenting labels: brick wall, jellyfish and backbone. Today I am going to add in an exoskeleton parenting style. Although there are about as many different ways to parent … Continue reading

Posted in Boundary Setting, Home Environment | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

TANTRUMS: The Serenity Triangle

In the past I felt annoyed by the whole – “Don’t Do, Just Be” brigade. I could never understand what was wrong with doing. If I didn’t have ambitions and plans, and work each day towards those goals – how … Continue reading

Posted in All About Tantrums, Boundary Setting, Home Environment | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

TANTRUMS: Yeah, Not Breaking That Bad Habit Is One.

Tantrums involve feeling unsafe and uncomfortable inside our bodies. Reaction Tantrums happen when something is out of whack with our homeostasis. If we are, at least somewhat, self-aware adults we can consciously hold the goal – say something like sleep … Continue reading

Posted in All About Tantrums, Boundary Setting, Home Environment | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Children Hyper-Attuned? Read this.

This is the next part in a series, which began here: Preventing Our Children From Developing Demons (And Healing Our Own). Our eldest son, in particular, was showing behaviours of hyper-attunement to the needs of others and showing other behaviours in … Continue reading

Posted in Home Environment | 8 Comments

Parents: 5 Key Tasks of Parenting

This post is part two of a series, which begins here: Preventing Our Children From Developing Demons (And Healing Our Own), in which I look at the ideas outlined in the book, Healing Developmental Trauma by Laurence Helller, PhD and … Continue reading

Posted in For Adults, Home Environment | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments