Tag Archives: boundary setting

Tantrum Recovery Time.

Ever noticed how the children, who have both emotional support and firm and reasonable boundaries, recover so much more quickly from their Processing Tantrums than those who don’t have these? Or, if they do have a major meltdown and the … Continue reading

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Parenting Styles and Unexpected Outcomes

I think it was NZ parenting guru Ian Grant who invented the parenting labels: brick wall, jellyfish and backbone. Today I am going to add in an exoskeleton parenting style. Although there are about as many different ways to parent … Continue reading

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Parenting Trick: The Power of Three

Often when people speak to me about their children’s non-compliance (over small reasonable requests), the dreaded word – consistency – pops up. Consistency is an ideal and probably not what most parents can realistically manage – we all have bad … Continue reading

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Conscious Behaviour Begins at Home

Conscious awareness of our own behaviour will appear naturally, and in bursts, throughout our childhood and early adulthood, but only if the early work is done by our parents or by the social environment in which we live. For Mr Butterfly, … Continue reading

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Anger or Something Else: Emotional Intelligence – Part Two

Emotions are often misunderstood and misinterpreted. We seem to forget too easily that we are, biologically speaking, far more emotional beings than we are rational-intellectual ones or behaviourist-robots. And the programming in our brain – the sum total of our emotional experiences to date … Continue reading

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Mindful Disconnection – Another Story

We arrived home Thursday afternoon and Mr Owl (aged six) hopped out of the car and went to play up a tree in our front yard. I released Mr Butterfly (aged 21 months) from his car-seat and took my things inside.  … Continue reading

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When Nurturing becomes Rescuing – Mindful Disconnection – Pt Five

We all know them: the parents who constantly rescue their children. Most of us can see the results of that approach ain’t that hot. The trick of course is to know when we are nurturing our children, and when we … Continue reading

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