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Mature Children – A Real Life Story from 2012

During our recent summer holidays we spent some time in the tiny seaside village of Mahia on New Zealand’s east coast. There were eight children, ranging in age from 13 to our darling two year-old. One of the privileges of a holidaying in a small … Continue reading

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Over-Protective Paret? Try This…

If we were all aware of our parenting style, and if we could always be conscious of our automated reactions to our children (and avoid/correct/respond more helpfully) – wouldn’t life be so much easier? Sigh. Our brains are built to make mistakes, … Continue reading

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For Parents: Emotional Support v Emotional Indulgence

Maturity, as many of you already know, is the main aim Craig and I have for our children. We define maturity as having all the aspects that Daniel Goleman identified as Emotional Intelligence: persistence; delayed gratification; planning; organisation; empathy; impulse control; social deftness; motivation … Continue reading

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Anger or Something Else: Emotional Intelligence – Part Two

Emotions are often misunderstood and misinterpreted. We seem to forget too easily that we are, biologically speaking, far more emotional beings than we are rational-intellectual ones or behaviourist-robots. And the programming in our brain – the sum total of our emotional experiences to date … Continue reading

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Preparing for Real Life – Mindful Disconnection Pt Seven(!)

We all know them: the bright high-achievers who bomb-out once they leave school. We all know the others: the bright hard-working early high-achievers who never seem to reach their potential once they’re away from home. We all know the ones … Continue reading

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Why Stoics and Perfectionists CAN’T Bedshare with their Kids

There has been a bit of a conversation over at lifewithgoblins blog about bedsharing. You can check it out here. And so I thought it might be a good time to throw some of my ideas into the mix. Ones built … Continue reading

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Emotional Intelligence Part One: Cross, Angry; Mischief, Naughty.

To my great delight and sometimes great pain, we have two highly articulate sons. Delight because they can and do communicate well :); pain because they can and do communicate well. 😉 The third is yet to speak, but judging … Continue reading

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