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Maturity is a Product of Experience, the Real Kind not Manufactured Bullshit

I have just been sitting on a grassy hill, under pine trees and in dappled sunlight, watching my four year-old play in a dam of icy water. (Yes, this is an old picture.) From time to time, as he walked … Continue reading

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A Quote

I am struck by the fact that the more slowly trees grow at first, the sounder they are at the core. We do not wish to see children precociously making great strides in their early years, like great sprouts producing … Continue reading

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Mature Children – A Real Life Story from 2012

During our recent summer holidays we spent some time in the tiny seaside village of Mahia on New Zealand’s east coast. There were eight children, ranging in age from 13 to our darling two year-old. One of the privileges of a holidaying in a small … Continue reading

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Parenting Trick: The Power of Three

Often when people speak to me about their children’s non-compliance (over small reasonable requests), the dreaded word – consistency – pops up. Consistency is an ideal and probably not what most parents can realistically manage – we all have bad … Continue reading

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Conscious Behaviour Begins at Home

Conscious awareness of our own behaviour will appear naturally, and in bursts, throughout our childhood and early adulthood, but only if the early work is done by our parents or by the social environment in which we live. For Mr Butterfly, … Continue reading

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For Parents: Emotional Support v Emotional Indulgence

Maturity, as many of you already know, is the main aim Craig and I have for our children. We define maturity as having all the aspects that Daniel Goleman identified as Emotional Intelligence: persistence; delayed gratification; planning; organisation; empathy; impulse control; social deftness; motivation … Continue reading

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Parents: Some Kids NEVER get Bored

Like most parents, we want the very best for our three boys. We understand that they live in a world very different to the one which Craig and I grew up in. We realise that the ability to adapt, change and think … Continue reading

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