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Bitchiness and Nasty Sarcasm – Bullying TANTRUMS of Sad People

I’ve talked a lot about Karpman’s  Drama Triangle and how those nonconscious (learned but automated) and embedded patterns (they are in place by the age of four or five) can muck up our parenting, without us even realising it. This … Continue reading

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Maturity is a Product of Experience, the Real Kind not Manufactured Bullshit

I have just been sitting on a grassy hill, under pine trees and in dappled sunlight, watching my four year-old play in a dam of icy water. (Yes, this is an old picture.) From time to time, as he walked … Continue reading

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Tantrum Recovery Time.

Ever noticed how the children, who have both emotional support and firm and reasonable boundaries, recover so much more quickly from their Processing Tantrums than those who don’t have these? Or, if they do have a major meltdown and the … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS and the Stubborn Child

So, Kloppenmum-ers I had the privilege of two children melting down this week – oh the joys! The first was our eight year-old, our usually lovely boy with an Owl temperament. It started as a simple Possession Tantrum over a … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: Yeah, Not Breaking That Bad Habit Is One.

Tantrums involve feeling unsafe and uncomfortable inside our bodies. Reaction Tantrums happen when something is out of whack with our homeostasis. If we are, at least somewhat, self-aware adults we can consciously hold the goal – say something like sleep … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: Do You Make Them Worse or Help Them Ease?

Yeah, tantrum-ing kids can be pretty unpleasant. They can be especially hard work if we’re knackered, stressed or ruminating about something other than them. It’s easy then to slip into the roles we were, inadvertently, taught by our parents or … Continue reading

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TANTRUMS: The Kid WON’T Sit at the Table

I love family rituals and one of the easiest ones to incorporate in our day has been to eat our evening meal together around a table. I am usually able to convince all and sundry that electronic entertainment can stay … Continue reading

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